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James Bocock asked:




How do I get my girlfriend to take me back? How many times have I heard that question asked, and how many times have I heard someone give advice that does not even come close to correctly answering the question, and actually makes the situation worse!

I thought I would give you three proven ways to increase your chances of getting your girlfriend back. My dear friend Myla Madson, a family counselor, shared these with me when I decided to find the answer to the question so many guys seem to be asking: How do I get my girlfriend to take me back?

It is important to remember that women tend to make up their mind about something after careful consideration and thoughtful reflection, and rarely change their minds unless there is a very good reason to. This reason could be that new information has emerged that they did not have available to them when they made their decision in the first place.

The first step is to realize, when it comes to a breakup, this missing information could be vital to getting your girlfriend to take you back. You must remember that there was something that attracted you to her in the first place and you need to remember what that was and honestly ask your self if you have changed. If so, then you need to come up with a reason why you changed.

Once you have that reason in hand, you need to attach it to an event in your life that has absolutely nothing to do with her that you have now resolved and you can get back to who you once were. Don't make anything up but the reason could be as simple as your parents aren't getting along, your job is not going well...your hamster died. You get the idea.

Let her know about this and apologize for the way you have been behaving and tell her you understand why she broke up with you and that you don't blame her in the least little bit...and then it go for a little while.

The next thing you want to do is give her some space and time alone to start missing you. If she knows that you were acting the way you were because of some outside influence beyond your control and that crisis is now over and you have returned back to the person she was first attracted to, and you are not currently acting like a desperate fool and stalking her, she will begin to miss the relationship the two of you once shared.

She cannot miss this relationship if your are constantly trying to contact her. As hard as this may be to do, you must break off contact with her and let her mind work through a few things and come to its own decision.

The third thing you want to do is contact her a few weeks after the breakup and tell her thanks for pointing out how you had been acting and that it really opened your eyes as to how you should handle whatever it was you told her was wrong with you in step one. She will have already thought about taking you back at the risk of whatever problem you were going through at the time that had changed you so much, popping back up and causing unrest in the relationship again.

If you cut this objection off and give her the credit for allowing you to grow as a person and find a positive and productive way to handle bad things that happen from time to time, you will have given her the key piece of information her mind needs to allow her heart to welcome you back.

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